INNER DIALOGUE IS NOT JUST SELF TALK

(01/24/03) Inner Dialogue is critical to understand and to be consciously aware of. In the context of communication, you have at least five elements that make up the foundation of speech:

1. ASSESSMENT

2. DECLARATION

3. PROMISE

4. REQUEST

5. ASSERTION

 

When we communicate, we are in one or more of these states, possibly using different combinations. The sad reality is that most people are not even aware of their speech patterns, verbal or in their head (INNER DIALOGUE) and therefore are in automatic response. Since most people are not aware of their speech patterns, they are not aware that they are also stuck in “THE STORY.” Here is a prime example of being stuck in the story. Most of us have seen on TV, or in a movie, a Judge in court, and he is listening to the person sitting on the bench ramble on and on (THE STORY) and the Judge says to the person, “Just the facts.” He doesn’t care about the story. He doesn’t want to hear all the drama. All he wants is to get to the bottom of the problem to give his decision. For those of you with kids, you hear “THE STORY” ALL DAY LONG.