FRUSTRATION, DISGUST, ANGER, MAD, RAGE

I just had an incredible experience that is hard to know where to put, because it falls into almost every category (topic and section) in this book. I will attempt to classify all the topics as they happened. As you read the following battle between events and relationships, you may find yourself going back in time, space, and place, seeing and feeling events which you have experienced. Think about how you handled them, and what you could have done to change/improve them, and what you can do in the future to Increase Your Capacity to Love.

At this point I have the flu and a head cold or whatever it is, and have lost my voice. It’s Sunday evening, I’m not feeling good, and there were five kids in the kitchen because they had been requested to clean it. They usually get pretty wound up when they are all together, which they did. I could feel the automatic responses starting to boil under the surface. Before I reacted negatively by yelling and allowing them to control me, I had my wife call them into the living room so I could have a talk with them. I talked to them as loud as I could, even getting winded from trying to talk so loud and from feeling sick…